{"id":21701,"date":"2019-11-06T16:21:42","date_gmt":"2019-11-06T21:21:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/?p=21701"},"modified":"2019-11-06T16:21:42","modified_gmt":"2019-11-06T21:21:42","slug":"nunchi-when-empathy-is-not-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/?p=21701","title":{"rendered":"Nunchi (when empathy is not enough)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There was an amazing recent article in the NY Times <a href=https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2019\/11\/02\/opinion\/sunday\/nunchi.html>about the Korean concept of &#8220;nunchi&#8221;<\/a>. I&#8217;ve been thinking deeply about this article.<\/p>\n<p>Nunchi is, to a first approximation, &#8220;the subtle art and ability to listen and gauge others&#8217; moods.&#8221; A person with &#8220;quick nunchi&#8221; can accurately read the mood of an entire room full of people.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s not a concept that is easy for many Westerners. This is largely because it requires the ability to actually shut up and listen.<\/p>\n<p>The article in the NY Times discusses the difference between nunchi and empathy. You can be very empathetic, yet still misunderstand what is going on around you.<\/p>\n<p>In contrast, a person with quick nunchi is able to correctly perceive whether empathy is even appropriate. This distinction is particularly useful when dealing with people who have narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been thinking back on my own interpersonal interactions, and realizing that I would be well served by developing my own nunchi. Unfortunately, sometimes empathy is not enough.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There was an amazing recent article in the NY Times about the Korean concept of &#8220;nunchi&#8221;. I&#8217;ve been thinking deeply about this article. Nunchi is, to a first approximation, &#8220;the subtle art and ability to listen and gauge others&#8217; moods.&#8221; A person with &#8220;quick nunchi&#8221; can accurately read the mood of an entire room full &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/?p=21701\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Nunchi (when empathy is not enough)&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21701"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=21701"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21701\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21702,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21701\/revisions\/21702"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=21701"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=21701"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.kenperlin.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=21701"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}