Nearly a week after my high school reunion, I find myself reflecting on what I learned. The major revelation I came away with was definitely a surprise.
If you think of the people you knew in high school, the ones you were close to, and those other ones you didn’t quite connect with, you can sketch out a kind of “distance function” between you and anyone else in your class.
Now let’s skip forward many years, and throw those same people together. One would think that time would be the great transformer of souls, the thing that forces up to level up, that tests us, that in the worst cases leaves us abandoned on the side of the road.
But that’s not at all what I found. I encountered the same people that I had known many years before, wieh the same essential energies and personalities. Those I had felt a strong connection with at sixteen, I still felt connected with now. And those who had seemed odd or slightly unfathomable to me, continued to feel that way even after all these years.
My take-away from this is that we all remain, throughout our lives, who we are. At our core we are the same person from early childhood until old age. The life long journey we embark upon, as exciting and varied as it is, does not, in any essential way, change this fundamental truth.